“It is better to light a candle instead of cursing others”
When faced with a problem we have two options as to how we could react. One is being extremely disappointed, giving up and losing hope completely. The second is to renew our vigor and start afresh with the hope of success. Most of us would choose the first and do the second, which just goes to show how confused we are. Misfortunes are a part of everyone’s lives. It is the attitude and our reaction to the problems which leads the way to either progress or complete disarray. Brian Tracy said,
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”
Amidst the death and destruction which has become a permanent part of our lives comes the echo of the past. The days of peace which we took for granted have now become distant dreams. And instead of working towards the goal of peace, we are busy looking to the past and blaming others for the choices we ourselves have made. Our excuse is that we are too weak and don’t have the power to make a difference but the fact is that we couldn’t careless about what is happening to others as long as we are safe. Muslims have always been known for their kindness and humility but today they are the most inconsiderate and selfish nation that the world has ever seen. Someone once said,
“Of all the words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: it might have been…”
There are times when people feel that what they are doing is not going to make a difference. Things do not necessarily have to be done on a grand level. Even a small initiative can amount to a big difference and as a result, more people are motivated. This produces a snowball effect and everyone plays their part in making the world a better place to live in. Mother Teresa once said,
“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop”
Why do we want to take the back seat and let others control our lives? Is it because we are not confident about ourselves and the decisions we make? Or is it a result of the laid back attitudes we have developed over time? It is probably a mixture of both these reasons. We are carefree and not bothered about the problems faced by others. On the other hand, we are not sure as to how our decisions would be perceived by others and what their outcome would be. Albert Ellis said,
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”
To have the courage to control our own lives we must first have the confidence to make our own decisions. There is only one way to gain confidence which is education. The teachers shape the future generations. It is their duty to teach the kids the importance of hard work. They should set a good example and not practice favoritism in any form. The youth needs to understand its significance. It must realize that it is the future and their country is dependent on them for development. Peaceful discussions should be encouraged and violence should be controlled. Teachers should inform their students about the impact they can make. Some one so rightly said,
“Never doubt that a small group of committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. No matter how difficult the situation we need to be determined and not lose faith in ourselves. We need to be confident about our decisions and look at the brighter side of the picture. We need to take matters into our own hands because only we can safeguard our rights.
The path to success is really tough,
Not so smooth really rough,
The path to success is full of thorns,
Requires hard work in nights and morns.